Palm d’Or at Cannes for a RO movie about the cruel reality May 29, 2007
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International Herald Tribunehttp://www.iht.com/articles/ap/2007/05/28/europe/EU-GEN-Romania-Abortion-Under-Communism.php
Abortions falling in Romania, but trauma from illegal abortions under communism remains
The Associated PressMonday, May 28, 2007
BUCHAREST, Romania: Cristina Mihaescu remembers lying quietly in hospital in 1975, fighting not to miscarry. In the bed next to her, a young woman was dying due to complications from an illegal abortion.
A day later, the woman, a mother of two, was dead — one of many victims under Romania’s communist-era laws severely restricting abortion and outlawing birth control.
“The poor woman had ruptured her uterus with knitting needles,” Mihaescu said. “She had turned purple from blood poisoning and had come to the hospital too late.”
Romanian director Cristian Mungiu chose the subject for his harrowing film “4 Months, 3 Weeks and 2 Days,” which on Sunday won the Cannes Film Festival’s top prize — the Palme d’Or.
The low-budget, naturalistic film features a student who goes through horrors to ensure that her friend can have a secret abortion.
In 1966, just one year into his quarter-century rule, former dictator Nicolae Ceausescu began to outlaw birth control and abortion in a bid to boost declining birth rates. Doctors who carried out abortions or who did not report botched home abortions risked prison sentences of up to eight years and being banned from the profession.
“It was a criminal law,” said Mihaescu, now 65. “My friends, my relatives and women I met were affected by it.”
Doctors defied the law, sometimes performing surgeries and abortions in their homes or in hospitals in the dead of night, while the Communist militia prowled the hospital corridors, Mihaescu said.
“My uncle was a gynecologist and he performed abortions at home because otherwise he would have risked going to prison,” said Theodor Oltean, a dentist. “The state wasn’t interested in whether a woman was dying, it just wanted to lock up the doctor.”
In 1987, two years before communism ended in Romania, the country had an estimated 131 abortions per 100 live births, the highest rate in Europe, according to the “Politics of Duplicity: Controlling Repoduction in Ceausescu’s Romania,” by Gail Kligman, who cites the Romanian Health Ministry. By comparison, Scotland had 14.1 abortions to 100 live births in 1987.
In 1989, Romania’s maternal mortality rate was 1.71 per 1,000 live births, with more than 1.4 of those deaths caused by the effects of abortion, the ministry says.
After communism ended, one of the government’s first acts was to legalize abortion, which then became the main method of contraception. Doctors, who could charge for abortions, even encouraged the practice. In the first year it was legal, Romania registered 600,000 abortions — or more than two per live birth.
The numbers have slowly fallen since then, with other forms of contraceptives gaining popularity. In 2005, there were just over 163,000 abortions, and last year 150,000.
“Women are now using condoms, the pill and older women the intrauterine devices,” said Dr. Raluca Stefan, a gynecologist at the Polizu hospital.
The numbers of abortion-related deaths have also been declining, with 15 registered in 2005, and 12 last year in the country of 22 million, the Health Ministry said.
But memories and the trauma linger.
“My sister-in-law was pregnant with her third child and the family couldn’t cope. I will never forget how she was rushed to hospital with septicemia after a home abortion. She needed a blood transfusion, and we were warming the bottles of blood and plasma in our armpits in the middle of the night,” Mihaescu said.
“My husband was in the corridor plying the militia with cigarettes,” and we had to say that she had bleeding from her uterus, “but the militia still came to her home and questioned her.”
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a cultural shock back home….or should i call it reality? May 29, 2007
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the reality is that people from Romania are mean…i saw this in Bucharest and i see this also in my home town, even though the people here pretend not to be “Olteni” which is seen as somehow, rude, cold, mean and so on.
after they got married, my parents chose to live here because it was at half distance from each of their parents. my mother never liked it and my father never admited that he didn’t like it either. for me it was fun to grow here…even though i didn’t have too many friends cause i was kind of geeky and i didn’t have money to go out to town with the cool gang…
today, i was in a supermarket with my mom and out of the blue this guy, in front of me in the cue, thinks i am staying too close to him (which is strange…because i am not a touchy person)…and he starts saying that this is the education of the young people in Romania and so on and so on…he was around 60 years old. and i spoke with him calmly, polite, without raising my tone and he continued to be angry and started calling me names, so my mom got angry and told him to mind his own business, and that an old guy should be more polite at his age…and he gets offended to be called old man…so here we are…at the kasse cueing and arguing…My GOD!!…after 3 minutes of arguing he is in front of the cashier and gets his products and pays…and leaves…but guess what…he waits for us at the exit and starts calling both of us whores and so on…UNBELIEVEBLE…i was still pretty calm, and i just said “please go home and mind your own business” but my mom was very offened…
i got over it but…i guess this is why young people leave Romania…and this is why our country is “developing” so slow…because people make it the goal of their lives to be: mean, to offend people, to feel very egocentric, so swear and lose their patience…
now, it seems so mean to me…people are mean just because…which seams to me so stupid and meaningless…i guess Romania needs a looong loong time to become civilized…
daydreaming May 28, 2007
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i have a lot of free time now…and i am spoiling myslef…i am daydreaming…
i feel like a child (at home)…and it is wonderful…children are happy and i am happy too:)
and i am dreaming about what will i be when i will grow up…
i remember writing on this blog that i wouldn’t like to live in Frankfurt…and Dieter told me that there are many reasons that might make me think differently in a while…he was right…
so when i will grow up i will be …i will be as happy as i am now…i will have 2 children and i will live in a beautiful city. i already found many beautiful cities in which i would like to live (Bucharest used to be on the list, not anymore!; Frankfurt was not on the list…but since my last wondering -round-alone in Frankfurt, i decided to put it on the list)…but who knows where will i live?
and who knows what will i do?…i could be a consultant…wearing elegant clothes and a “business like” atitude…or i could be a good host, saying “welcome” each evening to the guests in my restaurant…or i could be behind the stage and direct theater playes that will win a lot of prises…or i could be painting landscapes and nudes (i always loved to draw nudes) …or i could just update my website and answer people’s questions…
all these options sound good to me:)…i guess…as i friend of mine always used to say “I am easy to satisfy and i aim to please”:)) not really true…but whatever…wherever…i am happily daydreaming…and listening to Lion’s Radio…which i discovered a while ago on Zeno’s blog: www.zeno.ro (a really cool guy)…
well…there’s no end no begining…i will finish here for now…and continue my daydreaming…after i will eat some cherries…this is home: full-of-taste-tomatoes:) full-of-taste-garden strawberries and plenty of savage-cherries…
take a break and live your life!;)
a smart american thinks about Romania that… May 26, 2007
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Romania will become a European superstate. It is predicted to become the ninth largest country in the European Union and offers Europe and world tourists the mountains, sea, city and village life all at once. Foreign Direct Investment (FDI) is already higher in Romania then any of it’s neighbors, including Hungary, in second place, which receives a whopping one billion less in FDI a year. Savvy investors are clearly seeing what the future holds and are wasting no time in staking their claim in Romania’s fertile soil.
for more check out:
http://www.escapeartist.com/efam/72/Real_Estate_In_Romania.html
Reintegration…a total adventure May 25, 2007
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i arrived on Otopeni airport…
they checked my passport…i took my luggage…and i was trying to orientate myself towards the bus station…when i was assaulted by Taxi drivers…literally!!
“Don’t you need a cab?” , “I think you need a taxi, we can negotiate”, “come on, don’t you have 20 euros?” …well 20 euros is a little too much
…the bus was only 80 cents:))
the streets are full of holes and the entire city is full of dust…
i stayed at a great friend of mine! in a cheap neighborhood (150 euros per room per month)..i have to say that the rents are pretty much the same as in Frankfurt…a safe neighborhood though:) and only 30 minutes from the center.
at least once per day some neighbor is doing holes in the walls …it seams summer is building or interior designing season in Romania:)
i had to adapt to mean people…that are mean just for the fun…to people running and rushing around…in all directions looking as if they have an important mission…”i am on a mission! don’t bump into me or i will swear to you and you will get angry too and then the chain of angriness will spread all over”
i missed elevators …and escalators…i had to carry 20 kilos around …and now i have huge muscles at my arms
i managed to get all the documents needed for the visa and work permit in zurich…the only way to do it fast and without bribing…was…to look important…so…i had to be a bitch…so that the bored secretaries from the Unis (my master uni and my uni uni:))…will take me serious and feel that they are needed;)
“the program with the students is until 2 o’clock, now is 4!!”
“i changed 2 planes and a bus to come here to pick up my diploma, please i need it today and only you can help me”
it worked:D
and now i am finally in my home town…home sweet home…i don’t need integration here, but for Bucharest would have been useful…
it is so funny to see these people running around…and i was so calm…German way…calm:) …they looked like children to me:))
on the other hand i found an explanation for this hurry…it is normal…we are not at the same level with Germany and we need to catch up!!!…and as more as Germans relax…we will catch up faster…but…probably we will die sooner…at least the 4 millions living in Bucharest…UPS!
Zurich here i come…. May 23, 2007
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yesterday was a hell of a day…
and to make the sum up in one word: Zurich!
my next destination for 7-12 months…HR&IT job in UBS…
i can hardly wait for it!:)
SuperBase May 19, 2007
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that’s the name my mom calls Basescu…Romania’s president…
in Romania right now there are very interesting things happening…
today people went to vote for or against keeping Base our Superhero, as president or not…it seems 75% people voted for him to continue on being a president…
it is a political fight between the corrupted Parliament members and the choice of the people…but it seems and i hope so from all my heart, that the people’s choice will win! And once and for all we will get rid of the political fights and interests and start building up this country!!
I am really glad that the Romanians from Spain, Italy and US had the chance to vote…i think they are really many…and probably more then 2 000 000, how the estimations say…i am gald, because most of these people that work in other countries, are hard workers and want the best for Romania…they know better what it means to work hard and be apart from your family!!
I am happy that the fog is raising up and i hope it will vanish soon and not cover Romania anymore…
ratrace May 19, 2007
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i first heard the term at the middle of my traineeship…in the English class that my collegues had each Thursday…and i thought i am not in it…
but…a few days ago, when i sent my CV to all AIESEC alumni, to see if i get a job offer and see how much my butt worths on Bucharest’s market…my recruitment consultant told me that there is a lack of ballance between my age and my experience and this is why i won’t get as much as i worth…too much experience for such an early age…
and this evening i saw “Click” (2006) – a comedy, but a great movie that makes you think …about the rat race…and made me smile…yes, sometimes i am a workacholic…and i should start being a bitch…and this is where Nate’s saying comes in…”show me the money”…and someone could say…otherwise what?…well…otherwise…anyways i am overqualified for jobs that usually are adequate for people at my age…so i will just take a holiday!!! A BIG ONE:)))
cause there are so many things that are worth to be seen and done…and so many people that don’t worth to be neglected and should be visited and caressed more often:)
good night and sweet dreams!
a few words at the end of my traineeship May 15, 2007
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..especially dedicated to my friends that were near me (physically and psihically) … during the last 6 months:)
Hello my dear friends!
If i like it or not…my traineeship is coming to its end…tomorrow is my last working day and Thursday night is my flight…
These 6 months passed very fast…like a blink…i expected to last longer…i guess is the normal human time perception:)
I learned a lot from all of you, and i am glad i had the luck of meeting so beautiful people (we call it “oameni frumoshi”…and i think is the best compliment a person can receive, because it refers to the beauty of the soul), in a country from which i didn’t know what to expect…except for the stereotypes…
I never wanted to admit it during my stay here, but Yes, Germany’s culture is very different from my culture…and more important…different from me…and somehow, even if i had a great time here, i even learned (some) German, and in the last few months i even started to understand and enjoy German jokes…i think i adapted perfectly to the environment,…but with some costs….I feel that Germany changed me…i am colder then i used to be, i lost some of my passion for having fun, for enjoying life, for laughing like crazy with no reason…for colors…for sun (because here it doesn’t exist)…for feelings and love…yes, i guess i could say that in Germany i could never fall in love my way…or maybe i am just growing up and getting older
)
It is not “home”…and i don’t know if it could ever be…i am too much for this country…or maybe just for this town…and i feel that here i don’t have enough air, because i need to stop myself from saying things, from doing things, from huging people, from smiling to office colleagues, from puting passion in everything…because all this, here is innapropriate…except when i am with you…but still not 100%…because we are all in Germany:))
so i’ll go home for a breath of air:) …i am going to enjoy a warm country (35 degrees Celsius and SUN) with warm people…that have a passion for life even if they don’t have a great health system and even if they have to lock their cars in the parking places, even if the medium salary is 200 euros per month…i am going to spend a weekend on the seaside…a weekend in the mountains…a weekend in Sibiu, the most romantic city ever…entire weeks with my friends and with my familly…i will enjoy the weddings of my old friends…one month at home will give myself back to myself:)
I am very happy that i spent my time with you…you made of this traineeship a GREAT one! and everyone should know that a traineeship’s quality comes from the people IN it!!!!…and not from the Job Description…if you want a job description…go for a job!
YOU is WHY i decided to GO FOR one more traineeship;)…1 month home will be enough to pull myself together and enjoy a bit of the old times…and then a new adventure will start for me…i will most probably go to Amsterdam for one year…if not, i will be in Zurich, for half a year…anyways, both of them are quite close to here and they definitly worth to be visited:)…so you are all invited to meet again…for a cheese cake, apple wine..or whatever these different countries have as a gastronomic tradition:))
I hate proper good-byes…so don’t be upset if we didn’t manage to meet “for the last time”…
I believe the world is small…it was prooven to me so many times before
…and Europe is even smaller
)…it is easy to bump into eachother
…i will still go to Barcelona…and i am planning to go to Ibiza for a weekend this summer…i don’t know with whom, yet…but i will write an announncement on guysandgirls
…
I know for sure that i will visit Frankfurt again…i have a few places here that i have fallen in love with and i will miss, a some of you, my friends will still be in FfM for a while…and the best antitode for missing something or someone is to put your ass in a train or a plane and GO!…i have done it before…it is called spontaneity (not too common in DE though)…and if you will be around here, we can meet in Sausalitos for a cocktail
) or wherever…and you should make a mark on your maps…and visit me…i’ll make sure to inform myself about the cool pubs:)
and later on…maybe in one year from now…you should visit Romania also…
“A World without Romania”: www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSoruzRkj7g
All the best and MULTUMESC! (=Thank you!)
Armina
and don’t forget…
“Live, as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn, as if you were to live forever.”
“My Mary Jane shoes” May 15, 2007
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this is a title of a song i like…sang by Fergie…
i have never heard of her …until i gave my mp3 player to Alexandra to put some new music on it cause i was bored of mine…and i fell in love with this song:P
so …when i am sad i listen to it and i am thinking it would be great to “put on my Mary Jane shoes” and dance and forget about everything…
now i am sad that i am leaving and i am sad that is raining and raining…for the last 7-8 days and i can not enjoy my last days in Frankfurt because of the weather…
my room is very small…i think 7 sm…so it can become claustrophobic if you stay too long inside…so i went for a walk and i entered a store…and i bought my Mary Jane shoes:)
they are “balerinas” with a sharp pick…and…they are red…so now i have no reason to be sad anymore:)
it doesnt have “smart” lines…but the tunes are really great:)
Mary Jane Shoes lyrics
(feat. Rita Marley, The I-Three’s)
When I wear – my Mary Jane’s shoes
I can escape – from a blues
The whole world seems a little bit brighter, brighter
My heavy steps get a little bit louder, louder
Wooh my Mary Jane’s [4x]
When I wear – my Mary Jane’s shoes
Just like a child – under bruise
My heart and my soul – they feel like I’m seven
But from my head to my toes
It’s like I’m in heaven, heaven
Wooh my Mary Jane’s [4x]
When I wear Mary Jane’s shoes
I enjoy to spin – the ones and toes
Music has another dimension
And I can dance with another perception
Wooh my Mary Jane’s [4x]